I was busy thinking about boys.
(no clickbait intended) Hahahahah. Nope.
Great minds discuss ideas; average minds discuss events; small minds discuss people. And here I am today, being in the middle of average and small type of mind. So today in the perspective of a feminist, I'll be writing about boys.
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| 1 hour was spent to compile all the boys i like from the TV dramas and action series into this cover post. |
I am born feminist (maybe 30%).
As the eldest among my siblings, I always feel that I am the superior, i do things on my own. I sell Tapai (fermented tapioca) on my bicycle from door to door when I was 9 years old for extra money (mostly to buy Beyblade or Crush Gear, hahahaha). Most of my primary school friends are boys and I don't have any close female friend back then - that's why I'm a bit boyish in character. I assumed that most my friend are lazy, trust fund babies.
I am always a lil bit scared of guys especially those with big muscular figure, just like my previous boss - who is also an emotional and verbally abusive. And the guys in my hometown (village) are hopeless and they stay in the village without wanting to have a proper education or a convincing career. Two of my primary school female friends already married and then legally divorced, both because of domestic violence. Not to mention, my own neighbor - he is older than me and don't want to work at all, but his girlfriend is lending him her fucking Myvi car just to prove her love, what the hell?
And my dad also, he is not a good idol for me while i was growing up back then (hmm, maybe a bit). He is still a mediocre for me in my eyes. Like he wasn't there when it was my first day at my university, he never bother to know where I live during my internship and tbh he doesn't know where am I living at (even now). But, yeah he's my dad, i was his sperm lol. Oh, and our relationship is just fine, nothing much is happening, no fighting. Acceptance is the key. The less you care, the better your life is.
And as you knew it, I am kind of sceptical about boys.
(But I dont like working with girls, superior and underlings, ain't it weird?) I believe that good boys do exist - superficially yes, as a quiet good supportive colleagues or bosses. In the TV dramas, series and movies they look so good, angelic, heroic and goddamn picture perfect. Often they made me feels like 'Yeah, this is the type of guy that should be the dad of my kids'. < This is how female's brain works.
My first unachievable crush was Edison Chen. I first saw him in 2004, it was a HK movie titled 'Final Romance (願望樹) - released on 2001' when I was 10 years old. That was probably the first time I felt the 'early womanhood' symptom; proving that the Law of Attraction of the opposite sexes is a real deal. He's also the guy that stars in Initial D as the good antagonist.
His character in this movie taught me to be a giver, not to be a selfish people because good deeds will surely be repaid. Come on, feed your friend, feed stray cats and dogs.
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| Edison Chen (the guy on the front) plays Ah Dik, since then, I will always call nice guy with Ah on the front. |
But then at 2008, he was busted with his intimate photo scandal with various celebrities. Goddamn. His smiles though, he looked like a good guy whom won't kill an ant when he stepped on it.
Boys look so precious when they smile and heroic. (Blush)
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| Kim Young Gwang, i prefer this guy in any Kdrama regardless of character he carries. Good guy or bad. |
Boys, we girls will easily fell for you when you smile. Girls are born with a soft spot for induced-sweetness feelings, be it just a smirk, a warm smile from you boys. Just a friendly lovely gesture from them can spark a fuzzy, weird 'is this normal or is this love?' inside our girly brain. (And this thing happens to a feminist girl like me also, meh). Do watch this drama: Sweet Stranger and Me. The main boy in this drama is a pro in making dumpling, which is my favourita.
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| But I know, people will double standard this filipino guy... |
For centuries, generation has been taught that Male is superior than Female in many aspect. They're physically stronger, they're not bound to much emotional distortions from hormonal changes like we girls do during our periods. This made them a better leader when they can choose not to associate their daily task with their inner emotional stresses.
I secretly admire any guy that can open a tight bottle for me (although most of the time i can open it myself, hmmph)
Boys have been fighting and dying in the wars since the history of civilisation. Blood, Sweat and Tears are the vulnerable sides of boys that made them macho-er, sexier? Hmm. Idk.
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| TVB heroic character, Bosco!! He always play the police, detective, somekind of SWAT thingy. And bonus point, he's tanned as well. |
In my opinion, every boy looks 100% more attractive when they have something to fight for, some mission to be fulfilled for or just simply being motivated to achieve a target in his life. "I will work hard to support our life, I will save my money to buy my own car" or even "I will stay late to finish this version build" these are also make boys look cooler.
Single boy staying late in the office, finishing backlogs looks 130% cool, responsible and dependable. This kind of boy, I really would like to hug you from behind and tell you 'Boy, you did a good job over there with your life' and then I will cook you great food because you fucking deserve that!
But if you're married and have kids, it wont be as cool anymore, but a lil bit sad. Someday, I would like to sleep on a couch petting a black cat with a boy (husband) playing 'Hotel California' guitar solo. Lol, this one seems too ambitious, Aan.
Quiet Boys, Mysterious Boys, Badass but well-behaved boys!! Amen.
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| Me too. But I'm trying to like you guys.. |
Great balanced mind wont have time to please individuals that wont benefit them. Let me tell you once again, the less you know the better. (But doing charity will benefit you in the afterlife for sure). Smart will be always the new sexy. Smart beings doesn't exist to please others, they care less and they are happier with less problems. Their wardrobe consists of clothing with similar color and tones (Genius people always buy the same type of tshirt with the same color over and over again to avoid wasting times on deciding what to wear - Like me, ofc).
Badass boys do not waste their time and energy to think about stuff that complicates themselves. Overthinking is for the weak. It triggers depression, depression makes you question every single things that you deemed 'unfair' happening on top of your fucking existence. Badass boys won't have time for dat.
And smart boys wont play with girls's feeling. Hahahhaah.
Knowledge and character, if you cannot have both, pick character.
There are many type of girls (now I'm talking about my own species). And I fucking hate cheap girls. I'm not calling them cheap because of their financial status (because I'm poor too) but because of the way they handle their dignity. Playing WeChat to attract cheap boys, going to concerts with PTPTN money. Hmmm
Okay, Questions Time!
(Collected from my Instagram story's question)
1. Kenapa lelaki x kisah perasaan kitorang? (translation: Why do guys don't care about our feeling) - A.Z, Subang Jaya
Probably because your feeling is not important enough for that guy to care. (Thug life.gif)
2. I hate boysss.. - Athr.Y, Kuala Lumpur
Law of attraction will defy you, hahahaha. I used to hate them as well but my majority-boy colleagues has been good to me and treat me 180° degree better than my old boss that caused me to hate boys, so yeah. And.. watching dramas soften me much. I <3 남자 (namja = boys).
3. Girls are perverted too.. - M.A.F, Shah Alam
Girls will become perverted when they are desperate for it. And sebaik-baik orang ialah orang yang bersabar. Hahahaha. But I dont know about the libido of a married woman tho. (Fliptable.gif). Sex is one of the issues that I always avoid since it is 'for me' the part where human are obligated to commit it for breeding. Lol. It is natural, and maybe okay to show their animalistic character? Wtf. Boys, please pick girls that think with their brain and not girls that just blindly follow their lustful heart.
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| Just like animals |
And this is what I hate about 사생 fanatic obsessed K-pop group fan that goes beyond the limit. What's so good about chiseled abs, toned biceps when they cannot keep and help you from harms and dangerous situation. Kanasai
4. I don't like boys, I like man... - Hdyh, Banting
Hahahaha hahahaha. I'm not a pedophile person but, I want a guy that is playful, love to eat but matured enough to handle life. Man sounds like a serious term to address guy, so I'll go with boys.
5. Would you prefer someone else's husband rather than a guy like me? - F.R, Kajang
I hate this kind of woman. Unless the first wife asked the husband first for it. But currently l don't like a 100% Banjar like you tho. (Thug life.gif)
Okay. Bye. Time for Mission Impossible: Fallout.